Shooting at Children 2

Don't teach me what I already know

or what your training assumes I need to know.

                          Empower me or get out the way!!!

Shooting at Children

One of mine asked one of yours What up with Darfur? Why our Prez ain't cryin over them children steada' White kids? It's a fair enough question, but here the reality checks—1.  As the leader of the U.S., Obama's primary responsibility is to respond to American tragedies first n foremost;  2. when he gave his reaction, he mentioned all American kids, including our rugrats on the street corners who get off on the ra-ra (and parents who probably shouldn’t be parents);  3. he has no interest whatsoever in supporting egotrippin African leaders who abuse their own people and blame it on the White man;  4. Sudan’s own prez has been  indicted for genocide;  5. since its independence, Sudan has had civil unrest between Muslims in the north and Christians in the south, making religion the usual suspect;  6. Obama’s been pushing U.S. involvement in Sudan since 2007; 7. Arab and darker-skinned muslims need to talk about skin color politics within Islam. It’s not our President’s job to start that conversation. It’s the arabs’ and Black muslims’ duty to talk about their own avoid n deny;  and 8. some things are universal, like looking at the Christmas gifts you were getting ready to wrap while your kid isn’t looking and realizing that she or he won’t be around to unwrap them.

Interview with 'In the Black'

Peace, all. I just got the word that my interview with 'In the Black' is airing tonight, 11/26/12 @ 8:30p on ch34 (time warner cable) or RCN82, FIOS33, www.mnn.org (Part 2 next week)

Why I'm Voting...

Some of my students won't be voting, period and we gotta respect that cos from their perspective things don't change until the System itself changes; and the System ain't changing. Plus, when you got nothing on your mind but figuring out where to find food, clean water, gas and a warm place to stay at, voting may very well be your last priority. But what if the change we've been debating about starts with holding our local politicians accountable? Do we even know who they are? What if looking at our bad choices in mates and general know-how, the excuses we make for not doing so, and the definitions of what Black is and ain't or could be if we let go of past wounds is the key to finding our forward movement?

This Wednesday morning may very well be just another Wednesday morning, added with the burden of having to still deal with a hurricane aftermath. But I'm voting tomorrow cos I take pride in doing so. May not be the new year's eve feel we had back in '08, but I still believe we have an opp to be part of that change if we understand it begins with us, while the guy at the top does his part.

I'm voting cos I take pride in casting my vote. I'm voting cos I owe it to the ones before me who got murdered for daring to do so. I'm voting for Michelle cos I trust she'll make sure to keep her husband from negating the Black who initially abandoned him, then wouldn't accept him as Fam until south carolina said it was ok to have him sit at the Family Table. I'm voting cos my parents were never allowed to have their say in Port-au-Prince. I'm voting cos I think any country where a woman's body legally belongs to men is a very dark place to live in. I'm voting cos I wanna see all couples get the protection they need from grimies from either side of their blood take their belongings, including their own children, out of pure ignorance and spite. And I'm voting so that my vet students get the respect they've earned and deserve.

I'm voting to take back the piece of flesh that dog bit off when I was just learning my abc's, so that I can look at a dog today and not cringe at the very sight of it, the way we used to.

Typical Times...

This image and its captions reflect the current debate over which is the best way to raise and educate our teens, especially our sons. Traditional formulas aren't working

while new incentives handcuffed by tradition aren't working either. And in the between, our youth grow increasingly frustrated with the grown-ups. Since more Black females graduate college than Black males as a result of lesson plans that don't consider male learning patterns, they're more likely to become their supervisors. And since mass unemployment continues to be the main instigator of Black male disempowerment, the supervisor is now both in the home and at the job. Matriarchy is once again the norm and the on-going plan to destroy the Black family system. And let's be clear here.


When progressive educators use words like feminized and emasculated, we're not talking sexuality but rather the deliberate attempt to turn our sons into passive, non-threateneing men who are marriageable but cannot stand for themselves. Men do want to help raise their kids, when they're allowed. And calling a father deabeat is merely a reflection of a mother's poor choices. The war between sista and brotha ends when we first acknowledge the systems that work against us, so we can then figure out how to come out of the functional dysfunction we call normal. So from family court back to deciding his name, let's stop letting others exploit our divides or push their sense of selves on ours and focus on what the kid needs-- stabiliy, communication, reliability, open-mindness, emotional presence, a clear sense of his I, and an education that empowers him mentally and culturally, so that he knows to see himself not as a support for his counterparts but as captain of his own ship and partner to his partner.

The Art of Staying Informed...



There's a saying-- If you want to hide it from the Black man,
put it in a book. There's another saying-- The more you know, the more you owe!



Messengers of Lies - A Conversation with a Disillusioned Student

Since my earlier postings, I've interviewed students who I think are outstanding in both their outlook on life and ability to overcome their personal struggles. This time around, I'd like you to meet 22yrld  Mohammed Shakur who's studying criminal justice and coming of age after surviving parental abandonment, an abusive father, the foster care system, teen homelessness, racism, and marginalization from his own for his unwillingness to shed his locks and africentric beliefs and attire. In addition to making sense of all this, he has become disillusioned with our public education system from elementary school to college level studies because of the emphasis on standardized testing and euro-American philosohpy.

How'bout we start with what you're most passionate about, and that's school reform. What is it you'd like to see in our schools?
Black Studies as a regular part of the regiment from first grade to high school, so that other cultures learn our value; not just us. Even in college I gotta beef with my English teacher about his one-sided syllabus. 
What topics would you like to see covered?
Well, not the same usual safe stuff like frederick douglass and Dr. King, but a more pan African approach that looks at the world from the perspective of the invaded and not the invader.

Is Black Studies offered at your community college?
Yea, but it's taught either by wack professors or non-Black instructors, and I find that very insulting to us cos we know better. I mean, I don't understand why a course on the Black man is being taught by a White or Asian man, or a feminist.

What's a wack professor?
One who's afraid of teaching truth and waters down the info to avoid discussions on race relations and privilege.

You don't play!
No, I don't and I intimidate professors cos I know my past and current history.

What about your classmates? Do you vibe with them?
A lotta them don't mind the bullsht. They just wanna sit in their chairs, accept what's given to them and then graduate. They don't even challenge the indoctrination. They're dead and don't even know it!

Have you tried letting your professors know; maybe
offer some suggestions to better reach you?















They don't wanna hear it. Plus, their hands are tied. They have to follow the regiment or get fired. I know how it works, and that's why I get so agitated when I sit in these classes cos the messengers look like me and you, but they're nothing but messengers of lies.

How was high school for you?
Pretty much the same, except back then I wasn't yet aware of the mindgame being played on Black students.

Didn't you at least have one teacher or guidance counselor you connected with?
To be honest, no.

And what about now, at the college level?
Still wack, but there's a professor and a counselor I respect. And they keep it real with me.

Respect is important to you.
Mos def. I don't respect you just cos you got a title and a fancy degree. And that's why teachers get aggy with me cos I challenge them whenever I catch em in a lie or on an ism. Like this one teacher, first day of class, says to us we can't wear our head wraps.

What course was this?
English. And the professor was like, "I don't allow head wraps in my class." That said to me that he didn't want us expressing and feeling proud of our Caribbean African heritage.

What'you do?
I dropped that sucka' fast! Cos if I don't then I'm part of the problem.

So let's talk about your background, where and how you grew up.
I live in the Bronx, but grew up in Brownsville. My mom got on drugs and I had to raise my little sister and brother on my own. My dad wasn't around. We cool now, but back then he was M.I.A.. I forgive him. But it was crazy cos like, what'I know bout raising kids and I'm 9 and my lil brother and sister are like 6 and 5. But I had to learn how to be a parent fast.

You didn't have any relatives to take your mom's place?
My aunt stepped in later when I started high school, but before that we was homeless and at a shelter and then in foster care. My aunt's a foster parent, but she did it mainly for the money and makes me take care of her kids for her.

So you never really had a childhood.
Nope. I had no time for that. And I seen some grimy sht! But it is what it is. I'm here.

How's your relationship with your mother at this point?
I know I'm supposed to say I forgive her and all that, but I don't. I think messed up people shouldn't have kids. Some of my cousins tried getting me to be all nice and forget what she did; even told me to show respect. Black folk can be so stupid sometimes, for the sake of image. I have no respect for her or for them. I was on my own then and on my own now.

What about your aunt? She took you in.
And I'm thankful for that, but she also got money from the state and then made me take care of her foster kids while she went out. I don't thank her for that.

I know you were unemployed for a while. Are you working at all now?
I found an airport gig. Doesn't pay much, but it's something. When people see me, they see my locks and right away I get attitude; and a lotta times from my own. It's like we gotta conform to White standards if we wanna live.

I'd say corporate standards cos White kids gotta conform too.
But they got that White privilege working on their side. Me, I gotta pull back my locks and put down my Black some if I want an interview. But the White kid sitting next to me with no experience will get the job. And this is why I'm not getting caught up with the hype over Obama.

I'm guessing you're not voting for him.
I'm not voting for either clown cos it's all show to me. If it's not even safe for him to address mass unemployment for young Black males, then what good is he, really? All these Black folk treating him like he Jesus or something, but what has he really done for Black people? Please tell me.

I get your point. but it's an amazing story for him to become President when it was African American slaves who built the White House.
But that's all it is. Symbolism. Your generation might be excited about him, but a lotta people my age see him as just another puppet. And I think we like puppets. We used to like revolutionaries. Now we like people who can fit in and play the part. I don't wanna play the part.

But the Million Man March was about symbolism, wasn't it? I was there and it was beautiful. But in the end, it was about speeches with no follow-ups; no specific plans. You might have been a toddler then, but I'm sure you've heard about the March.
Yea, you'right. I mean, I wasn't there but I know y'all headed back home to the same bullsht. But you see what I mean, tho. We like symbolism. We like bullsht!

Do you think that's why the young vote isn't as high as it was when Obama first dropped?
Of course. Plus, the jobs factor. Jay-Z and Beyonce threw high price dinners for him, but ain't nobody in the hood talkin bout voting like before. We got bamboozled and we learned. Now, we're like, prove it mfkr! Come up with a Black agenda or don't come at all!

I'm with you on the symbolism. But his opponent will open the door to crazies who wanna go backwards. And a country that doesn't give women the right to make their own choices is a dangerous place to live in. But let's talk about criminal justice and why you're majoring in it?
I wanna teach criminology from our perspective. This whole Stop and Frisk debate is huge. I didn't think it would reach the Supreme Court. Plus I finally got a professor I respect. I'm taking Policing and Policy by a Black man who's not afraid to talk about White privilege. Schools and colleges don't usually hire strong Black males. Strong in the sense that they stand up for themselves, demand respect and get it. I mean, how many Koromantee's have you seen on your campus?

True that. So what are some things you'd like my readers to know? And who do you have as support? Because it seems you've been on your own since you were raising your sibblngs while being a child yourself.
I deal. My father's not a dad, but if I'm in trouble he'd look out. I don't miss family cos I never had it. Wouldn't mind having a lovely, but not too many females impress me. A lotta them are simple, to me; only interested in what they can get from a dude and don't wanna look at their sht. And since I'm not easily impressed with looks and clothes, they can't figure me out. It's not just girls. If you're not down with pop culture and nigga smack, dudes can't firgure you out either. But there're others like myself and we meet at poetry jams and community cyphers.

Whay's a cypher, for those who might not be in the know?
A cypher is when you make a human circle and take turns dropping wisdom. It can be a poem, Rap, an affirmation. But it's all about building; and for me personally, it helps me feel not so different and isolated.

And what are you doing to heal from all that isolation? Certainly, having to deal with adult problems as a young boy was traumatic enough. And having to define manhood on your own is problematic in itself. Cyphers, sports; religion, even are good distractions. But how do you address the wounds; the rage that we carry in our collective psyche, whether consciously or unconsciously? How does a Black man even begin talking about it when he's told to man up and suppress his feelings?
I've seen dudes self-destruct from suppressing their feelings. I think you just have to open yourself to letting someone help you work through it. But it's finding that right person who you know can relate. You can't come at it from a textbook. All I can tell you is that I make smart choices. I pick out who and what's good for me, and avoid the rest. I meditate. And I do poetry open mics to let my sht out. I think I'm as angry as the next Black man. And I don't think the rage goes away. You just get better at dealing with it. Like getting stopped and frisked almost every day in your own hood, and just dealing with it. But I feel like I'm gonna get the break I been waiting for. I'm finally getting my own place next month; found a room in a house that my counselor found for me. I'm good.

I know youre not gonna vote, and I'm gonna respect that for the reasons we talked about. But for that voter who just finished pressing yes for obama, what do you wanna tell them?
Wake up. Look around you. What exactly has changed? Are our sons working? Are they even smiling? Look at our daughters. Why do they wanna be baby mamas and not married women? And look at our local leaders? do we know our local leaders? What exactly are they're doing to make your hood better? Obama can say he wasn't the one who left us in a recession. But mass unemployment and incarceration for young Black males been going on when we had a surplus under Clinton. It's the same'o game, and we keep falling for it. Wake up!