One of my passions is doing life skills workshops for students who are either bordering academic probation or seeking solutions to adult problems. I recently got the opportunity to do both at the City University of New York where a multicultural audience and sisterhood group showed me love!...
The larger workshop
was titled, Are You In the Right Major?...
...for those students who are having a difficult time not only deciding on a major, but finding the motivation it takes to actually navigate university waters...
...It's not that they can't succeed. Because it takes mad skillz to perfecting commuter urban discipline. Thing is, how do you connect natural know-how with standards already set before instructors and advisors even meet their students?...
...In these here times--especially for Black male students who are still the least to attend a university--getting a college degree is a necessity. And most students, no matter what incentive brought them to admissions, including their mother's badgering, do want to graduate...
...It's just that they need messengers they can relate to and vice versa. Agitators who have the letters but care more about the process of showing someone how to turn from at-risk to champion!
Now, the idea of a more intimate workshop actually came from Anna Rondon, President of the BMCC Sisterhood Society....
...We'd been talking about male/female relationships, after she started reading my latest book. Anna thought it would be a positive move towards understanding males from a sensible grown man's perspective....
...By the time the cam was moving from hand to hand, personal stories were being shared openly; stories of perseverance and truth, trepidation and love when it's at its best!...
...I usually have to use both bat and feather when talking to young ladies about the particularities of the male species. If I'm not shaking them out of victim mindset, I'm teaching them not to mistake female empowerment for the disempowering of males....
...But it was neither. Just honest conversation about the self, in relation to another self. Knowing the difference between being needy and knowing what you need. Learning that having a controlling nature means being out of control. And understanding that males are, indeed, emotional beings.
Just that we're socialized not to be. Encouraged might be a better word, every time you hear playa', dog, my nigga and man up....
...They got it. You got it. And I got it...
...Some males enjoy being called someone's nigga!
Tuesday, December 8, 2009
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2 comments:
This is great news! Keep sowing brother! And, keep pressing!
Thanks, man!
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